One of the more fascinating clients I ever worked with showed me how creative the human mind can be at maintaining problems. When she came to me she was stuck reliving an old emotional memory. Nothing traumatic, but every time she thought about it she felt the same emotions all over again, as if the […]
One of the things often taught in NLP trainings is that the third perceptual position is a state of non-judgmental observation. In other words, when we step outside an experience and observe it from the outside, we become neutral witnesses to what happened. In practice, that’s often not what occurs. Over nearly two decades of
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After running a recent workshop on facilitating transformational conversations, I got a piece of feedback that stuck with me. During the workshop I taught what I call The 7 Keys for Facilitating Transformational Conversations. After explaining the content I demonstrated a fifteen-minute transformational conversation so people could see how those principles look in action. Later
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Are your goals so big that no progress ever feels like enough? Recently one of my high performer clients asked me “How do you celebrate progress?” A question I struggled with for years. Like many ambitious people, he was suffering from a persistent case of “it’s never enough.” Consistently working on but rarely stopping to
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The quality of your conversations determines the quality of your life and it’s pretty clear that not all conversations are created equal… Some conversations are toxic.Some are just ordinary.Some are empowering.And some are even transformational. What’s the quality of your day-to-day conversations? Last week I delivered a presentation on facilitating transformational conversations and introduced a
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Last week I ran a workshop on the 7 Keys for Facilitating Transformational Conversations: Powerful communication skills for coaching, leading, parenting, and self-development. We had a great turn out and in the hours before the event I was questioning whether or not I would do a demonstration of a ‘transformational conversation’. In retrospect that was
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Have you ever been in the zone, riding a wave of flow so strong that you burn the midnight oil telling yourself “I better keep going because who knows when I’ll catch this inspiration again”? This is a common mistake I run into when exploring people’s relationship with inspiration, productivity, and flow. They don’t trust
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One of the common habits I see among coaches, trainers, and NLP practitioners is this: when they are eliciting a state, they have their clients close their eyes first (and they do the same with themselves). At first glance, this sounds harmless and even helpful. Closing the eyes seems like a natural way to cut
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“Whose thoughts are in your head?” This was the question I asked my client upon hearing him state a clearly limiting belief. This is when I got an answer that caught me off guard. “My father’s,” he replied. I was perplexed. “If your father’s thoughts are in your head, whose thoughts are in his head?”
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How frequently do you update the apps on your phone and computer? I would hope quite frequently. Apps on my phone are running updates nearly every single day to remain “up-to-date”. Imagine how outdated your phone or computer would be if you didn’t run updates. Of course you would be missing many new features
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