An NLP Tip for Everyday Interactions: Leave them in a Better State than When You Found Them

Would you like to improve your relationships and increase your influence, while making the world a better place?

It sounds like the full package and in this article I am going to share a tip with you that I personally have been using for over 10 years now that has been amazingly rewarding in my life and the lives of the people around me.

While this tip does not seem like rocket science the reward you get back from the effort you put out continues to compound over time.

So what is the tip?  Leave people in a better state than when you met them.

This applies to any interaction with loved ones or strangers!

Whether you are chatting with someone on the street, a loved one, a friend, a coworker, an employee, a gatekeeper for someone you are aiming to connect or someone at the checkout counter at the store, what can you do in that brief interaction to leave them in a better state than when you walked up?

The fields of NLP & Neuro-Semantics provide many skills and tools to support you in doing this quickly and effectively.

• The NLP rapport skills set (https://perceptionacademy.com/courses/rapport/) to build instant connections with people.
• The skills of eliciting states to alter someone’s emotional state and intentionally eliciting positive states in them (https://perceptionacademy.com/courses/state-elicitation-101/)
• The ability to read their non-verbal communication to calibrate where they are at the beginning of the communication and to calibrate if what you are doing is effective (https://perceptionacademy.com/courses/calibration/).

Another interesting facet of NLP that applies here is NLP anchoring – the behavioral conditioning of Neuro-Linguistic conditioning.  

An example of what NLP refers to as anchoring would be when you hear a song or smell a perfume and it transports you back to a time in the past and/or reminds you of a specific person.

If you build a practice in yourself and in your life of leaving people in a better place than when you found them what happens is…  not only does it make their day better and make your day better, but the look of your face, the sound voice, and all of the other characteristics of ‘you’ that they are seeing and hearing get anchored to those positive feelings.  

Eventually this allows them to unconsciously feel better just by seeing you and/or hearing your voice. Over time they will feel better, just thinking about you, without you needing to do anything.

So if you would like to improve your relationships and increase your influence, while making the world a better place then aim to leave people in a better state than when you found them and the effort it takes is greatly outweighed by the rewards.

What do you do to leave people in a better state than when you met them? Feel free to share your questions and comments here.